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Quick Facts
| Normal response time | Same day for routine messages; within 2 days for anything non-urgent |
| Emergency | Call immediately — do not wait for a text reply |
| Our setup | WhatsApp group with all homeowners — faster than platform messaging |
| If no response after calling | Try emergency contact from welcome guide |
| If still no response | Contact vet for pet issues; contact THS to document the situation |
| What you can decide alone | Minor household decisions, small repairs, managing routines |
| What you cannot decide alone | Vet treatment, medication changes, anything irreversible |
| Platform support reality | A safety blanket — they may reassure and guide, but cannot force the homeowner to respond |
On our Portugal sit, I sent a message at 1am about the dog resource guarding the bed. The message was read. No reply came until 9am. By then, Caro and I had already managed the situation ourselves. We had got the dog out of the bedroom, settled it in the living room, and worked out a plan for the following night. The situation did not wait for a response, so we did not wait either.
Based on 18 sits across 11 countries with TrustedHouseSitters, a homeowner going completely silent for an extended period is rare. Most reply: sometimes days later, sometimes with a single emoji, sometimes a thumbs up that tells you nothing except that they are alive. But it happens on the forum regularly enough to warrant a clear framework. This article covers what to do when the homeowner stops responding, what decisions you are allowed to make alone, and when involving the platform is actually worth it. Use our 25% discount when joining THS.
Why Homeowners Go Quiet
The honest starting point: most homeowners who stop responding are not ignoring you. They are on holiday.
They are in a time zone where your message arrived at 3am. They are on a hiking trail with no signal. They are at a wedding with their phone on silent. They are, finally, not thinking about the house. Which is the entire point of booking a house sitter.
Silence is not the same as abandonment. Before escalating, ask whether the question truly requires a response today. Most routine messages can wait 24 to 48 hours without any consequence. If the homeowner has not responded to a question about bin day in two days, send a follow-up or figure it out yourself. This is not an emergency.
The situation changes when the silence is accompanied by urgency: a pet showing signs of illness, an unexpected situation at the property, something that requires a decision that cannot be made without the homeowner's input. That is when the response time matters.
Setting Up Communication Before the Sit Starts
The most effective way to manage homeowner silence is to set up faster communication channels before the sit starts.
We create a WhatsApp group with all homeowners as part of every pre-sit handover. For sits with two homeowners, this means both are in the group. If one is unreachable or in a meeting, the other can respond. It also creates a permanent message thread that sits outside the platform, making it easier to send a photo, a voice note, or a quick update without navigating the THS interface.
The pre-sit video call is the moment to confirm: "What is the best way to reach you during the sit if something comes up?" and "Is there an emergency contact we should have in case we cannot reach you?" Both questions are normal and both answers are essential. A homeowner who has no emergency contact listed in the welcome guide and goes silent mid-sit is a preventable problem.
The Response Time Framework
Different situations call for different expectations.
| Situation | Expected response time | If no response by then |
|---|---|---|
| Routine question (bin day, appliance, WiFi code) | 24-48 hours | Figure it out or send a follow-up |
| Minor pet behaviour question | Same day | Follow up; manage conservatively in the meantime |
| Something needing a decision (delivery, visitor, minor repair) | Same day | Use your judgement; document what you did |
| Pet showing signs of illness | Within hours | Call the homeowner; call the vet in parallel |
| Property emergency (flood, break-in, structural issue) | Immediate | Call the homeowner; call emergency services if needed |
| Safety concern (undisclosed pet behaviour, feeling unsafe) | Immediate | Call the homeowner; contact THS to document |
The Portugal situation (a 1am message read at 4am with a 9am response) sits in the safety concern category. The response time was not ideal, but we had already resolved the immediate risk ourselves. The message served its primary purpose: documentation. The homeowner knew, in writing, at 4am, that we had a problem.
The Escalation Chain
When the homeowner is truly unreachable and the situation requires action, the chain is simple and always the same.
First, message in writing through whatever channel the homeowner prefers: platform message, WhatsApp, or both. A written message creates the timestamp record whether or not it is read immediately.
Second, call. A call gets through where a message does not. If the homeowner is in a country with international roaming, a call to their number will often connect even if they are not checking messages.
Third, try the emergency contact from the welcome guide. A family member, friend, or neighbour listed as the emergency contact is the person the homeowner designated precisely for this situation. Use them.
Fourth, for any pet health issue, call the homeowner's vet directly. The vet knows the animal, has the medical history, and can advise on urgency and next steps without needing the homeowner present. Our pet emergency guide covers this in full.
Fifth, contact the platform. THS Membership Services cannot force a homeowner to respond, but they can log the situation, provide guidance, and create a formal record that protects you if the sit becomes disputed later. Not all house sitting platforms have live support. Nomador and most smaller platforms handle issues via email only. The response may be slow. Contact them for documentation purposes, not expecting an instant fix.
What You Can Decide Alone
Not every situation requires homeowner input. Part of being a good sitter is using judgement on things that do not need escalating.
A delivery arrives. You accept it or redirect it. A lightbulb blows. You replace it from the cupboard under the sink. The dishwasher makes an unusual sound. You stop using it and hand-wash instead. A neighbour asks if everything is okay. You say yes, everything is fine.
These are the ordinary decisions of living in a home. A homeowner who is unreachable does not need to be consulted on household minutiae. Use common sense, document anything significant in a message you send regardless of whether they respond, and get on with it.
The decisions you cannot make alone are the irreversible ones. Authorising veterinary treatment beyond basic first aid. Agreeing to a repair that involves significant cost. Letting someone into the property who was not mentioned during the handover. Deciding to leave the sit early without the homeowner's knowledge. These decisions have consequences the homeowner did not consent to, and they require at minimum a documented attempt to reach them first.
The Paper Trail Principle
The WhatsApp group and the platform message thread are both paper trails. Every significant message you send, whether the homeowner responds or not, creates a timestamped record of what you reported, when, and what the situation was.
This protects you in three ways. If the homeowner later disputes something about the sit (a damage claim, a behaviour complaint), you have evidence of what was communicated and when. If the platform asks what happened, you have a clear record. If the situation escalates to something serious, the timeline matters.
Send the message even when you do not expect a response. A 1am WhatsApp to a homeowner who is asleep is still a 1am record. The act of sending matters independently of whether it is read.
Our property damage guide covers documentation from the arrival walkthrough perspective. The same principle applies to communication: the record is its own form of protection.
The 963Hz Solution: A Side Note on the Portugal Sit
After the first difficult night with the resource-guarding dog in Portugal, we took two practical steps the following day. We made sure the dog ran a lot. A tired dog is a calmer dog, and a calmer dog is less reactive at night. Then we started playing a 963Hz frequency music loop through the night.
The effect was immediate. The dog barked significantly less. The atmosphere in the house shifted noticeably. Whether this is the frequency itself, the consistent ambient sound masking external triggers, or simply the dog being exhausted from the day's exercise, the combination worked.
We now have the dog sleeping outside the bedroom without significant barking, silence at night, and a dog who is affectionate and easy during the day. The homeowner's slow response did not resolve the situation. We did.
This is the underlying point of the whole article: when a homeowner stops responding, the sit does not stop. You manage what is in front of you, document it properly, and continue. The platform is a safety net that may assist. It is not a first responder.
When Platform Support Is Worth Contacting
Contact THS (or whichever platform you are on) in these specific situations, in order to create a documented record:
The pet has shown undisclosed behaviour that affects your safety and the homeowner has not meaningfully acknowledged it. This is what we did in Portugal: we messaged THS so the situation was on file regardless of what happened next.
The homeowner has been unreachable for more than 48 hours and you have a situation that truly requires their input. The platform can attempt to contact them through their own channels.
You are considering ending the sit early due to the homeowner's unresponsiveness or an undisclosed issue. Contact the platform before leaving, not after. Our guide to early homeowner returns covers the mechanics of ending a sit early from both sides.
You want a formal record that the homeowner was aware of a specific situation. Even if support cannot act on it, the ticket exists.
Go into every sit with the expectation that you will resolve most situations yourself. The platform is useful. It is not reliable as a first line of response, and support on most platforms cannot change the homeowner's behaviour in real time. Use it as documentation, not as rescue.
Conclusion
A homeowner who stops responding is more often distracted than absent. Most situations that feel urgent in the moment can be managed with common sense, documented in writing, and left for the homeowner to see when they resurface.
For genuine emergencies: call, do not message. Work through the emergency contacts. Contact the vet for pet issues. Document everything. Contact the platform to create a paper trail.
For everything else: use your judgement, send the message anyway for the record, and get on with the sit. A period of silence is not an invitation to panic. It is an invitation to demonstrate that the trust was warranted.
Read our pet emergency guide for the specific decision chain when a pet needs medical attention and the owner cannot be reached. And join TrustedHouseSitters with 25% off using our discount link.
DM us @housesittersguide on Instagram if you are in a situation like this right now. We answer everyone.
Frequently Asked Questions
What should I do if a homeowner stops responding during a house sit?
Send a written message first to create a record, then call if the situation is urgent. For non-urgent questions, wait 24-48 hours before following up. For anything involving pet health or property safety, call immediately and work through the emergency contact list if the homeowner cannot be reached. Our pet emergency guide covers the full decision chain for medical situations.
Can I make decisions about the pet without the homeowner's permission?
For minor day-to-day care decisions, yes. For anything irreversible (vet treatment, medication changes, euthanasia) always attempt to reach the homeowner first. If truly unreachable, escalate to the emergency contact, then to the vet who knows the animal. The vet's professional recommendation is the basis for any medical decision made without the homeowner's direct input.
Should I contact TrustedHouseSitters if the homeowner stops responding?
Yes, but for documentation purposes rather than expecting an immediate intervention. THS support cannot force a homeowner to respond, and live support is not always available. Contact them in writing so the situation is on file. This protects you if the sit later becomes disputed. Use the platform as a safety net, not a first responder.
How do I avoid this situation before the sit starts?
Set up a WhatsApp group with all homeowners during the pre-sit handover. Confirm the best contact method for during the trip. Get emergency contact details before the sit starts and make sure they are in the welcome guide. Ask during the video call: "If something comes up and we can't reach you, who should we contact?"
